The Birthday


I just don't understand the concept of celebrating a birthday. Celebrations should be reserved for something we're proud of. If at all one needs to celebrate a birthday, it should be the day you are really born in this world. The day you have achieved something significant in your life. The moment we achieve great things, we're born that day, once again.

The birthday party tradition is sheer societal conditioning and economic opportunity. In fact a birthday can be the most depressing day as you're growing older, losing your limited time, and it's a frigging reminder on your face, that you're getting closer to the end. How can one celebrate such a day, with such existential angst?

I think we should take the birthday as an yearly opportunity to examine our life, health, work, relationships, and goals. Who doesn't love a good party? Nothing wrong in having fun, throwing a grand party to the whole town, as long as you look within, yearn to be the man you want to be, and grow every year. I might sound rude here, however time is limited, no matter our views. Maybe that's one good reason to celebrate our existence on the birth day. 

You're entitled to your own views on life. 

In case today is your birthday, I wish a happy birthday!

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